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Whether you are currently an openly sensitive soul, or have developed a hardened heart for self defense, I want you to remember one thing. Every living being on this Earth is considered ‘living in the flesh’. No matter where you are in your personal journey, there are inevitable moments that we are going to experience by default. Hurt, anger, obstacles, setbacks, disappointments, rejection are to name a few. No one is above it. Obviously, some of these events can be altered due to the choices you make. But when they end up happening, the only thing you can really make a choice about is the way that you respond to it. The best way to start? Be real with how you feel.

If you choose to lag in your response or perceive it incorrectly, the same thing is guaranteed to happen to you again. Believe that God is most definitely trying to show you something. Take a breath, step back and think about what that is. If you can’t quite figure it out yet, atleast pat yourself on the back for even beginning to question it. Pray for clarity on the situation. Rest on it. Even if you can’t find the exact words, ask God to read your heart in what you’re trying to say. It may not click right away, but now your heart is receptive. Something is better than nothing at all. I’m sure it’ll get a bit more clear every time a similar situation circles back around.

I know what its like to feel like it’ll never end. This is where patience comes in and trust, you’ll be needing that too. Roll with the punches, even if they’re your own blows. Be easy on yourself. Don’t let the negative thinking be the end all be all for you. If you’re asking “Why me?!”, the answer is because it is for YOU. It’s the same answer for all of us breathing. The truth is that everyone is struggling with something. Another truth is that there is a force out here that is above all those things and He wants better for you than you want for yourself, no matter what you think. Tough love isn’t comfortable, but it damn sure is effective. If everything came easy, you wouldn’t appreciate it as much. The character that is being built is going to be needed for your elevation. Taking shortcuts or ignoring the truth is ultimately shortchanging yourself. There are certain things you must grow through. As bad as it sucks, its important to remember to never take it too personal. So suck it all up, friend. Better days are coming.

Acknowledge and congratulate yourself even on the baby steps in your learning process - because they matter! Sometimes you just gotta ride the waves while being seasick until you get to land. If I let every drawback draw me back, I would be super stuck. Some people stay stuck all their lives because they never wanted to learn. A lot of people grow hardened hearts as a defense mechanism, for most of us it’s just a natural inclination to protect the home within ourselves. I’ve been there also and I fully understand you. IDGAF used to be the theme for my mindset. I could have had it tattooed it on my forehead and it still wouldn’t have been enough to express how I thought I felt. But thank the Lord for His saving grace and the many situations He put me in that caused me to grow tired of my own bullshit. I was tired of producing the same results and the same patterns. I had resisted it for so long to the point where I was getting physically sick! My stubborn ass drove me to the point of desperation that led to full days spent curled up in darkness and BEGGING God to work on me. I didn’t even know where to start.. I just knew I wanted change. It was during these dark times where God really revealed Himself to me, and the journey since then has been life changing to say the least.

If you’re not at the point yet where you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, its perfectly okay. It’s okay to know you want change, but have yet to walk in it. I’m here to let you know that its okay to be vulnerable. Get the negative connotation of being ‘soft’ out of your culture driven belief book and just embrace ‘living in the flesh’. Be transparent with your own self first to acknowledge how you naturally feel, and don’t feel bad about it. Stop fighting and let all that it is be what it is, then let it pass. And just to throw it out there for now, the same way you don’t owe anyone an explanation, they don’t owe you one either.

Allow these things to resonate. Allow yourself to make space to grow, be gentle with yourself and be patient with your own unique process. Take care of YOU first before worrying about taking care of anyone else. And most importantly, don’t let anyone or anything tell you where you need to be with it. It’s your timing. You got this!