Give it Your ALL - or nothing at all

“If you can’t give it your all, you shouldn’t be involved”

Heyyyyyyy everyone! Yes, i know its been a while. I originally planned to be on a committed schedule to releasing my newsletters, but I just have to stick what feels right and natural by waiting until i receive and feel the message to write to you about. Its just more real that way. Nothing has changed about who I have as my audience, and I feel that everything is so perfectly aligned, so much that the messages I relay are truly for you! So this morning was one of those beautiful times where it just hit me and I just ran to my computer because I felt like I needed to write about it.

Plain and simple, if you can’t give it your all, you shouldn’t be involved. If you can’t put your whole heart into it, you shouldn’t be involved. In this case I’m particularly talking about relationships and friendships, but you can definitely apply it to other circumstances. Many people try to ‘protect their heart’ when dealing with people, but understand that means not giving the truest and best version of you. I get we’ve all been hurt before, so it might be the bodys natural defense mechanism or something of the sort. But let that be the indication that you need to spend more time with yourself, reflecting on and healing from what hurt you. It’s okay to be closed off at times to give yourself a chance to refresh your perspective. But by rushing through the process and only giving someone a piece of you, you are guaranteed one of two things : to either get only a piece of them back, or a complete imbalance of exchange of love…. both ends up going sour! Why settle for this? We are so capable of loving at our fullest and best potential if we would just be patient to learn it, and let it flow freely. Some people haven’t allowed themself to sit with themself long enough to see that jumping from one person to another person is just a continuous cycle of self harm and prolonging what is truly for you. And what is truly for you, deserves ALL of you!!!!

Obviously, we must keep the wisdom and healthy boundaries when it comes to navigating these relationships, but that all comes with the experience. I believe to experience thoroughly, to learn and grow through it properly and solidly you have to come exactly as who you are. Come in not with the expectation of getting hurt, but with the ‘all knowing’ that everything was already written anyway, so even if it doesn’t end favorably, you trust that it worked out the way it was supposed to. Let lessons make you wiser, quicker in discerning, but don’t let it make your heart turn cold. Its not a matter of whether to trust people… its letting them in to see if they know what to do with your heart. If they don’t, they don’t belong where you are - release control and just pay attention because everything will tell you what you need to know. Do not overcomplicate this! So when they SHOW you, adjust accordingly - but you’ll always be sure that you gave your truest and most genuine all. STAND ON YOUR LOVE AND THE WAY YOU DO IT! When people do mistreat you, don’t take it personal, see it just as a reflection of the personal work they need to do and let them be.

At the end of the day I always say, if i can’t give it my all then count me out. I’m not here for half ass relationships. I’m more than fine spending time with myself, getting to know my truest self and loving her without any outside influences. I move with caution when God introduces a new experience through a person because of the lessons I’ve learned in the past, but I share my heart freely so I know I’m making space to give and receive something real in return. I like to believe I love different and deeper than most because I’ve taken time to understand this concept, so I expect that in return!! & if not that at the minimum, I excuse myself from it. As should you ❤️ You deserve the love you’re willing to give deep inside you. Life is too short to sell yourself short of true and fulfilling experiences. They won’t come everyday, but when they do you’ll be prepared and it will be so worth it!

Have a lovely day,

Molly